The following entry was written for Her Story lives by Netra Colbert. Netra is the author of "Exceeding 33" & "Exceeding Autism."
"As a Christian, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend and an entrepreneur, I constantly find myself lost in one of my numerous titles. The balancing act that women play is so intricately woven that we do what we do and tend to neglect our own personal needs. I often battle to balance mommy vs. mission or wife vs. will. The reality is that purpose should define the process. I never would’ve thought that I would be over thirty years old just realizing what God’s purpose was for my life.
I spent majority of my twenties partying and wasting time in long term dead end relationships. It wasn’t until after I was married and had my children that I started to write my feelings out. In that writing, I realized that God had given me the ability to convey clear messages of inspiration in my writing. God took the pain and birthed a purpose. It is very important that we don’t dismiss the pain and situations that we go through so quickly. It is in those times, that God is doing His best work within us, but we are so quick to want to alleviate the pain that we miss the purpose of the affliction. As a nurse, one of the most important aspects of a patient’s physical assessment is their pain scale. The patient may be walking around smiling and laughing, but when you ask them what their level of pain on a scale of 1 to 10, they tell you that their pain is a 9. A key rule of nursing is that the pain is whatever the patient says it is. Regardless of how they look on the outside, the level of pain they report is what is to be documented and treated. This is how God works in our lives. He doesn’t treat us based on the way we look or the way that we act, instead grace abounds and God deals with from the internal aspect. Once we open our mouth and heart to say what the pain is, God can alleviate our pains. You may still have to go through a painful process, but this is when we learn to lean and depend on Him.
For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. Romans 8:18 (ESV)
Someone needs to know without a shadow of doubt that God is working on your behalf. You may be working against you, but the apostle Paul tells us a little further down in the same chapter of Romans, that all things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28) Even the things that you feel are working against you are working for you. As much as I would like to walk around in my feelings and ask God why He would let this happen to me or what did I do to deserve this? We must realize that we don’t have the authority to ask God why, but we do have the right to ask him “what” it is that He wants you to do with the obstacle that has been placed before you. What is so much more meaningful than why!
Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: “God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20 (MSG)
Finding the purpose is not even a part of the battle. Maintaining your mission and sustaining your substance is what you are going to fight for to live on purpose. Sisters, even though we wear many hats and hold many titles, don’t ever lose sight of the purpose of your purpose. For more encouragement, remember that sisters before you birthed pain into purpose.
Mary (Mother of Jesus) was engaged to be married to Joseph when an angel appeared telling her that she would give birth to Jesus. Ladies, maybe it’s just me, but I don’t know too many fellas out there that would stay with us if we told them that we were a virgin and ended up pregnant based on a prophecy knowing that they had nothing to do with the conception process. I am sure that was a painful process for Mary to endure.
Mary is only one of many women in the Bible that go unmentioned and unrecognized. Take some time and read up on Rachel & Leah (Genesis 29-30), Abigail (1 Samuel 25), Tamar (2 Samuel 13 & Genesis 38) and let us not forget the story of Mary and Elizabeth (Luke 1) which serves as the basis of our network!"
Stay connected. Be blessed!
Author of Exceeding 33 & Exceeding Autism