Thursday, December 20, 2007
I knew that we were struggling in our relationship and in almost every aspect of our life, but I didn't know what was causing it. I thought it was me. I thought I must not be doing everything I needed to do, that I wasn't a good enough wife and mother. I prayed that I would know what I could do to make things better for my family, and within a week I found out what was really going on.
My husband is addicted to sex, which started as an addiction to pornography at a very young age. That was almost two years ago. Even though I wanted to take my children and run, I decided to stay in the marriage and help him with his addiction. With the help of LDS family services, he attends group meetings weekly, and is making progress in his recovery. There is even a meeting for the spouses where I gain so much strength and hope, being surrounded by women who know how I feel and are dealing with the same struggles I face!
Unfortunately, pornography addiction is so much more common than we want to believe, and there are so many people out there who are addicted, but don't want to admit it. It was really hard for my husband to admit his addiction, but it has opened the way for him to recover from it. It will probably take years to get over it completely, but I have seen him change spiritually, and our life is much richer now.
Labels: family, internet, sexual addiction, Success, unfaithful
Thank you for mentioning LDS Family Services!! I know that the Addiction Recovery Program works and I am so thankful for it.
Posted at January 22, 2008 1:30 PM
Thank You for sharing your story. I found these images on my computer as well. I confronted my husband . He didn't admit it at first. I convinced him that it couldn't be anybody else. He says he viewed it only occasionally. Should I believe him or is it more of a cover up? He does stay up late on the computer and I am not there with him. Do you recommend a good filter?
sincerely Hope
Posted at January 23, 2008 10:05 PM
I am LDS too- our bishop has also referred us in the direction of LDS family services, and I wasn't sure if that would be a good place to go or not. I am glad to see a referral. Most of all, I am glad to read success stories. The failure stories are the ones most heard of, and I feel like leaving sometime not because things are "so bad" in our marriage right now, but for my fear that things will only get worse. Thank you for your success story that gives me hope and strength, and most of all, lets me know I am not alone.
Posted at May 5, 2008 11:47 AM
I am LDS too- our bishop has also referred us in the direction of LDS family services, and I wasn't sure if that would be a good place to go or not. I am glad to see a referral. Most of all, I am glad to read success stories. The failure stories are the ones most heard of, and I feel like leaving sometime not because things are "so bad" in our marriage right now, but for my fear that things will only get worse. Thank you for your success story that gives me hope and strength, and most of all, lets me know I am not alone.
Posted at May 5, 2008 11:47 AM
